venusFlection: MARTIAN LOVE - You won't wife her if you do this and more!

I definitely had to post a response to ChiomaB's post. I think I'll focus on the dating aspect of what she posted. I've had issues with all of her major points except dating a cheapskate. Fortunately, I've never dated someone who expected me to pay for anything when we went out. I believe the man should always pay, however the woman should be considerate of his pockets every so often and treat him to dinner, etc. However ladies, if you should happen to be on a date with a guy and he informs that you you have to front your half (or...gulp...the entirety) of the bill, SHELL IT OUT GRACEFULLY! He already looks bad, but catching an attitude will then make you look bad. Stay the victim! LOL. If you were really interested in the guy before the "payment mishap" then find a blunt but nice way to inform him of how you feel. Quite frankly, before dating someone, gauge how much it means to you if a guy does or doesn't pay, and make sure your date is aware. Guys need and want to know what's expected of them. Most guys won't mind paying if they know upfront that's your standard. In fact make sure he knows how you expect to be treated on a date in general, and YOU should know how to be treated on a date as well!

How to be a Girl on a Date

underlined text is excerpted from "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" by Steve Harvey

1. Don't tell him where you'd like to go. I hate when a guy says he wants to take me out and then I have to pick everything we do. A date is supposed to have romantic elements fellas, so find out what your potential date likes to eat, where she likes to dine, and then, YOU pick the place.
2. Don't tell him you'll drive - let him get you to where you all need to go. I'm flexible on this one, and there are things about him that have to be on point in order for this to work. My mother did tell me that I am not a taxi cab.
3. Don't tell him you want to go dutch - let him pay. 
4. Don't invite him up for a nightcap - kiss him goodnight. Ladies, keep it simple, sometimes we get ahead of ourselves. PACE YOURSELF so you don't get caught up and get attached to soon. Point blank, don't make yourself to available and keep your legs closed for at least 90 days! The same goes for you fellas!

And let me point out that much of this I already felt strongly about prior to reading the book, the book just confirmed it from the older male perspective.

YOUR THOUGHTS?

MARTIAN LOVE: You won't wife her if you do this and more!

We are citizens of Venus, but once in a while we like to show the Martians love too! This is a topic that has been on my mind for quite some time. When it comes to pursuing a woman, for some reason, a lot of guys just don't get it! Sooo being the nice, caring, generous, compassionate (and the list goes on lol) person I am, I've decided to help the bruthas out :)

First things first fellas, you have to remember that we are not THAT much different than you! Yes, we like attention but too much kills us too. Posh Powell and I asked our female friends on Twitter and Facebook what their #1 dating deal breaker was, and the top response was a man that is too clingy. Let me spell it out for you => excessive phone calls/text messages are a NO, extreme persistence is a NO, and nagging is a definite NO! Guys you must learn how to take hints, especially the ones that are right in front of your face! I know all this sounds simple, but you will not believe how many women complain about guys that seem to think that by ignoring them we are actually giving them the green light to try harder. For the guys that are guilty of this, I encourage you to look up Albert Einstein's definition of insanity. Maybe that will give you a better understanding of where we're coming from.

On to the next...Let's talk about sex! Or maybe not? Another reoccuring response was talking about sex too much or too soon. Let's be real, we all think about it but does it really have to be the main topic of discussion? You can't blame us for wondering what your motives are when you immediately start talking about sex during the first conversation. Like one of our respondents said, "...if we get on that level that topic will show up in due time!" So guys, no need to rush the topic, we like our men patient ;)

I know it's 2009 going on 2010 and all, but many of the old rules of dating still apply. When you invite a woman out on a date, you should be prepared to pay for her and you damn sure shouldn't be expecting her to pay for you! Some women may be willing to fork up their half, but no woman likes a cheapskate so you should at least offer. Even if you're the type of guy that always pays a woman's way, you could still lose brownie points for coming with a budget for the date. I'm not saying you have to go all out to impress her, but if you are on a budget my advice to you is stick with Outback if you know you can't afford Morton's (PLEASE don't take that too literally lol).

Ok, so I gave you three of the most popular responses to our dating deal breakers questionnaire. Since I love my martians oooh so much I'm gonna leave you with the rest. Good luck fellas! Oh, and a very special thank you to all the ladies that responded to our dating deal breakers question!

OTHER DATING DEAL BREAKERS:
Ignorance, poor conversation, bad vocabulary
Bitchassness (sp?)
Cheesy feet, bad shoes, poor appearance in general
Poor hygeine (bad breath/body odor)
No sense of humor
Smoking
Bad Kisser
Dishonesty